Upbringing is the way parents guide and treat their
children to help them understand the changing world and eventually lead it. It
is the process of shaping a child's emotions, mindset, and body in
alignment with the needs of the evolving world.
Feelings
are the experience and expression of emotions. Mindset is the pattern of
thinking, attitude, and approach toward problems and their solutions. The body
is of utmost importance, as the functioning of the mind, spirit, intuition
(from the infinite intelligence), actions, and all life processes depend on the
body.
Therefore, in proper upbringing, we must understand the physical and mental
development and care, psychological challenges during different growth stages
and the connection between the child and the infinite intelligence.
Breastfeeding is not just about
milk; it is also emotional nourishment and psychological support. Similarly,
hugging and kissing, as forms of physical touch, are ways of
transferring spirit and intuition. Touch is a crucial part of parenting—be
serious about it. It transmits energy related to the mind and spirit,
creating an emotional and spiritual bond between the child and the caregiver.
Children do not understand and follow the verbal instructions easily.
They mainly learn from emotional responses, physical actions, and
behavior. They only imitate the patterns of their parents and
surroundings. If parents are engaged in video games, mobile screens, or
book reading, children will do the same. We are their role models, so we must
live the values we want them to adopt.
The decline of the great Roman Empire can be traced to the fact that royal
children were raised by slaves. As a result, they adopted the emotional and
mental patterns—the mindset—of their caretakers. This is important to note.
We must also be mindful of eating habits, cultural manners and values and
physical activity and hygiene.
Humans, as mammals (Homo sapiens sapiens), have evolved
into Homo socius (social human), Homo faber (creative human), and Homo
scientificus (scientific human) through cooperation,
coordination, and communication. Thus, we must train our children to
communicate, cooperate, and coordinate meaningfully and humanely.
We often complain about our children's behavior, attitude, and mindset toward
family, society, humanity, and nature. We blame the children or society, but
rarely reflect on our role as parents. This is the real tragedy.
Children go through many biological, hormonal, psychological, and physical
changes while growing. We must understand and wisely handle these changes as
responsible parents and citizens.
We should not only instruct them but live as role models. Children
learn by watching us. True upbringing means teaching through action, not just
words.
Achary Pravar Niranjan Ji
Chairman, Indian Institute for the Improvement of Spirituality and Culture
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